The Divine Feminine: From Seeking Romantic Validation to Seeking Creation - A Woman's Path to (True) Fulfillment
The real way for women to heal limerence and the obsession over the search for a romantic partner - it's time we remembered our inherent power of birthing worlds.
Women - the feminine - are beings for divine creation (duh, we have literal wombs that give birth to LIFE).
Our number one love in life is supposed to be art, creation, and the expression of our soul.
Not the search for The One, or a lover to complete us.
We are meant to prioritize pouring our attention and energy upon our creative hobbies and pursuits of curiosity.
(PS. It doesn’t mean you can’t ever find a fulfilling relationship, I’m just saying you cannot go out into the world with the mission of filling a void within you with something whose purpose is not that. For if you do, the void will never be filled and if anything you will be left even more disheartened with every encounter leaving you feel unloveable.)
Whether you find divinity and inspiration in the way the light shimmers through the leaves of trees and scatter like soft shrapnel onto the wildflowers of the forest floor...
Or you are pulled with an almost sinful curiosity and obsession with understanding all that you can about the human psyche and the realms that we cannot see with our bear eyes…
Or, perhaps, your hands are your second womb - carving and molding your soul’s expression from clay or flooding a blank canvas with all the colors of you, remember this…
…The void cannot be filled with anything other than your realization and subsequent complementary actions that your soul’s expression and desire for creation are what will truly fill the void within you…
Not by someone else choosing you, or you chasing somebody to prove to yourself (and them) that you can be loved.
How silly is it - the greatness of your being, the larger part of you, your higher self, knows that you are already loved and yet you find all the ways you can to prove otherwise.
I cannot begin to express the fullness that you begin to feel when you divert your energy from external validation via men to internal validation - making what your soul is made of tangible, so you can look upon it in the world (whether it is your art, your writing, the creation of the influx of your curiosity on a topic), knowing that you are staring at yourself and fall completely in love with it, with yourself - and the process of it all.
Through this process of creation, which involves the emotional process of trusting the work that you do, enjoying its fruition from idea to completion, and mastering it - you are essentially trusting yourself, enjoying yourself, and seeing truly your capabilities.
You are forming a greater relationship with yourself and increasing the love and satisfaction that you have for your own life - just as it is. Realizing the infinite power and energy that has forever been you - the being that can create worlds.
When we are unbalanced in our masculine energy (chasing and seeking), we are unbalanced in our masculine energy (chasing and seeking) when we are addicted to the search for the love that we can give ourselves, to others.
The happiest women I have ever met (and the happiest I have ever been) make their creation their obsession and priority.
When you fall back into your naturally creative energies as a woman, you fall back into your divine feminine energy. You begin to become naturally more receptive, your aura and energy become magnetized - all opportunities come flowing into your reality, rather than you having to suffer, work hard, and abandon your true callings to attain your desires suddenly all of your desires are flowing to you, and you simply need to approve of what you allow in your life.
All of a sudden, you are attracting everything that you fought so hard to find in the world, and it all seems so easy that you find yourself wondering why you never did any of this before. Why you didn’t let go sooner of the striving and grasp onto everything your intuition was always telling you to follow.
By shifting your focus from what the world is giving you to what you can create and share with the world, you can have it all without any fight for it.
As you create and share your soul’s outward expression with the world, all that is truly aligned and good for you will be able to find you. Because you are finally pouring gas onto your unique flame of color that makes you easier to find.
Suddenly, the love comes rushing in, the abundance, the support - and suddenly, without you even realizing it - you feel so whole and complete, the void is gone and you look at your past self in an almost warm, motherly humor and wonder why she ever thought that the love that she sought after in men could ever match the love and wholeness that had always existed in potential within herself.
If you are a woman and feel fairly lost in life, things are stagnant for you and you find yourself in many days of wondering “What should I be doing?” and “Why can’t I find what I’m looking for?” and “Why don’t they love me?” and “Why do I feel so empty?”…
I want you to ask yourself what brings you curiosity and enjoyment - there is at least one thing you love to do: life feels peaceful when you do it. Time doesn’t feel like time anymore and you are whisked away in an energy of pure enjoyment of the present moment.
It can be baking, cooking, writing, painting, gymnastics, ice-skating, pondering, hosting events, designing things, giving advice to others - the possibilities are vast and endless.
Find what you love to do, find the thing (or things) that your inner being feels satisfied with doing - share it with the world, work at becoming a master of it, and make it your lover. And see how it can grow. Then, laugh at how you wanted to pour all of that divine love and energy onto a man before yourself.
Let your creative endeavors be the first relationship that you nurture. Your creative endeavors are like seeds that you plant, and with practice (with watering, care, love, time, and attention) will, in turn, give all of that and so much more back to you.
I truly wonder why so many women, and I myself in the past, had believed in the grand illusion that it is love, men, and relationships that we must first and foremost strive to find, to love and to achieve. When all we ever had to do to fill the sadness, the void - whatever yours may be - with trust and love for ourselves, by giving ourselves the time to see what we love, what we can create - watering and caring for our own gardens than climbing over fences and beating our heads against the walls of another so that we can tend to theirs.